We all want to meet true love. However, we do everything we can to drive away this kind of love.
Entering a relationship for fear of being alone, lacking the necessary assertiveness or fear of losing the other person can make real love does not knock on our door.
And is that, with all these premises, love will begin to limit us, it will restrict our freedom. Love will begin to be based on fear.
True love is not emotional dependence
We sometimes confuse true love with emotional dependence. Therefore, we believe certain phrases such as “if he is jealous is that he loves you” or “love is possession” …In this way, we judge our partner if he is not jealous, we want him to show that we are his property and, with all this, where is true love?
In this way, we judge our partner if he is not jealous, we want him to show that we are his property and, with all this, where is true love?
It is not because it has become something that limits and prevents growth. When, in fact, love allows us to become better people every day, to advance in life, to mature.
When love limits, it has the days counted. Because the beliefs that cover it nullify the feeling that it really is and everything that implies.
At the moment when we consider it true that loving someone is dependent, not loved, needed. Therefore, we are very far from being able to meet true love.
Do not judge your past, because it lives in the present
Something that characterizes true love is that it will never judge your past. That is, the mistakes you may have made with other couples there is no reason to revive them in the present.
If someone is with you, wants to start a relationship with you and form a project of life together, you do not have to judge those actions that have been part of your experience.
For example, you may have been unfaithful or emotionally dependent on a partner for some time. Maybe you did not allow yourself to be the best parent in the past or you were not completely honest in your relationship.
Whatever it is, the person you encountered should not judge all this. Well, it is assumed that if you are aware of everything mentioned, it is that you have learned, been critical of you and understood that you can improve.
In the event that none of this happens, that you may be afraid that the person you have at your side will judge your past because, if you are sincere, that person will leave, you have to keep in mind that this is not true love.
You are not allowing yourself to be sincere. Express your experiences and everything you have learned from them. You are not the same person from a few years ago.
So if your possible partner judges you for everything experienced, experienced and for all the mistakes made, it is not what you are looking for, because that is not true love.
In search of a mature love
True love can be equated with what we know as mature love. A quieter love, with very solid bases and that emerges once the phase of falling in love has passed.
This love is characterized by a series of guidelines on which we will reflect below:
- It accepts the past without judging, since it is impossible to change it, and it is also an experience that has led to enriching learning.
- He does not want to change the other person, for true love implies fully accepting the other. Only in this way can a healthy connection and a full relationship be established.
- She knows that she does not need the other person to be happy, but she chooses her as a life partner to live a full loving experience and to allow both members to enjoy and learn together from life.
- It never limits the future of one of the members, but it boosts the growth of each one by impelling them to reach their goals.
Mature love never makes us small, but it invites us to grow. Because the couple would never have to make us feel that our world stagnates or regresses, but it advances.