The growth of children is one of the most challenging and fulfilling tasks in the world for parents. If you are a father or mother of a newborn, you should understand that you are learning and avoid feeling unprepared.
Here are nine steps for more effective and happy parenting. We challenge you to feel more satisfied as a parent and enjoy your children more.
1. Recognize Good Deeds
Give them rewards, like love, praise, and hugs. Don’t criticize them more than you compliment them. Acknowledge good deeds, and this will be more effective in encouraging long-term good behavior than continued reprimands.
2. Put Limits And Be Consistent With Discipline
Discipline is necessary for all houses. The goal of discipline is to help children to learn self-control. Putting house rules helps children understand your expectations. We are recommending that you implement a warning followed by consequences, such as losing certain privileges. A frequent mistake of parents is not following through with the consequences.
3. Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem
While they are children, they begin to develop their sense of self when they see themselves through the eyes of their parents. Therefore, your words and actions as a parent impact the development of their self-esteem more than anything else. Avoid using hurtful comments and choose your words carefully. Praise for their accomplishments, even if they are small.
4. Be A Good Role Model
Young children learn how to act by watching and seeing their parents. You should be aware that your children are watching you. The smaller they are, they will imitate you more. Set an example of the qualities you want to cultivate in your children: respect, warmth, honesty, kindness, and tolerance.
5. Make Communication A Priority
Please don’t expect your children to do everything you say, just because you are their parents. They also want and deserve explanations just like adults. Make your expectations clear and, if there is a problem, explain it. Express your feelings and also invite your child to find a solution together. Don’t forget to mention the consequences.
6. Spend Time With Your Children
Try to get up 10 minutes early so you can have breakfast with your children and go for a walk after dinner. Children who do not receive the proper attention from their parents often overreact or misbehave because in doing so, they are sure that they will receive their attention.
7. Show That Your Love Is Unconditional
Put forth efforts to educate and encourage, even when disciplining your children. Ensure they know that your love is unconditional even though you wish and hope for better next time. When you face your child, avoid blaming, criticizing, or looking for flaws; all of this can provoke resentment.
8. Don’t Forget Your Own Needs And Limitations As A Parent
Parents have to face their children when they are not perfect. You have to accept your abilities and then promise to rectify your incapacities. It would be best if you tried to have realistic expectations of yourself, your partner, and your children. That would be best to focus on the areas that need the most attention rather than trying to tackle everything at once. Admit when you feel exhausted.
9. Be Flexible With Your Parenting Style
If your child’s behavior often is not as to your passions, then it gives you embarrassment. It would help if you realized first that you don’t have realistic expectations. As your child grows up, you should slowly modify your parenting style. Maybe what is effective for you today will no longer be so in a year or two.
As a human being, every person has their individual needs, and focusing on your needs doesn’t make you selfish. It means that you care about yourself. But at the same time, as parents, you have must follow your responsibility and steps to do more effective parenting things.